Mayhem. It’s not just a nickname for our kid anymore. It very accurately describes the past five days of our lives.
First, we can’t begin to tell you how humbling it is to have so many people reaching out to us and sharing that our story of making paper dresses has either touched or inspired them in some way. The kind words have brought smiles, laughs and at times, even tears (the good kind). I’m literally still shaking my head and saying “but we’re just hanging out at home making paper dresses…”.
So thank you, to each of you who have dropped us a line, left us a comment (anywhere) or reached out in some way.
We’ve had many exciting opportunities come our way. To say our inbox runneth over is an understatement. And for that, too, we are SO grateful.
Chatting with a few friends last night, I expressed that this whole experience was exciting for about 2.4 seconds before it became overwhelming and even a bit intimidating. The kind of overwhelm which causes your body to physically shake. Nonstop. (For about 60 hours in my case.) But here’s where that gratitude comes back in … we have some of the BEST people you can imagine in our lives. Friends who dropped what they were doing to make phone calls, send emails, and jump in with both feet to help us get a handle on things. We owe a lot of people a LOT right now.
And those friends came in droves offering emotional support too. Just as important. Incredible words of encouragement and inspiration were sent our way.
I was encouraged to trust myself. Trust my intuition. To stand guard at the door of my mind. To maintain my integrity. To keep on keeping Mayhem priority number one.
So we put the brakes on. And stopped panicking about the hundreds of emails labeled “Urgent”, “Immediate Response”, “Oscars”, “Red Carpet”, “Exclusive” and “Extremely Time Sensitive”. We stopped answering the phone. And we started asking questions like: How do we keep Mayhem safe? How do we keep this fun? How do we maintain our integrity? How do we manage all this? Do we want something else to come from this? Which opportunities could we embrace and still have the kind of family life that is important to us? So we made phone calls and put some things in place to make life a little more manageable.
And then we did the normal stuff. Grocery shopping, playing Sequence for Kids, Goldie Blox, Go Fish, dress making, coloring, hidden pictures, watching Frozen (out on iTunes already!) and puzzles just to name a few.
Many many friends have asked if Mayhem has a clue what’s going on and the answer is no and yes. No, she doesn’t really have any idea of the magnitude of what has just happened. But yes, because like all kids, she knows when something is up. She feels it when mom and dad get stressed. And she’s not a big fan of that. The other day she told me “no more email Mom, let’s just go make a dress”. And this morning as I was back at it typing away, she sat next to me and cried stating “I’m afraid you’ll never play with me again Mom”. Don’t worry, she knows better than that. While I know she’s feeling a lot of stuff from us, she’s also a pint sized master manipulator
We’ve passed on a lot of opportunities already. We know many of them were “time sensitive”. And since everyone wants to know, no, we’re not currently in New York. And we won’t be appearing on any morning shows live tomorrow. Don’t get us wrong, we are extremely appreciative for the offers that came in, but it just didn’t feel right yet.
So we’re here at home. Watching it snow. And expecting up to seven inches of snow in the next 24 hours means we might just be snowed in tomorrow.
Yes, we’ll be watching the Academy Awards tonight. We might even let Mayhem stay up and watch it for a while too I’ll let her take a look at the dresses and see what she thinks. Just like we always do. I won’t force her to make anything she doesn’t want to. And we won’t put any deadlines on making them. Because I’m pretty sure that might just suck the fun right out of this. But we’ll sit in our cozy little space and do our thing. The way we usually do it. In the place we usually do it.
Today, my friend Tricia commented “If it begins to be too much pressure…the fun is gone! Your purpose is gone. You know that!!!”
It was the virtual hug I needed to know that this isn’t just about tonight or tomorrow. We’ve been making dresses out of paper for nearly nine months now. Just for fun. And we’re going to keep on keeping on. We hope you’ll keep on enjoying what we do.
Finally, the absolute greatest joy that we’ve had through this whole experience is to see the creations we’ve inspired. Checking out the tags #fashionbymayhem and #inspiredbymayhem on Instagram right now are mind blowing! We never in a million years would have guessed so many people would jump in and get creative with us. So keep ‘em coming! You guys are amazing and we adore seeing them